Can We Talk? Can we Care?? (my response to Joan Rivers + invitation for conversation.

Friends (including Ms. Joan Rivers)
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Join me today to talk about what’s going on in Israel and Gaza. Here’s why. 
In her distinct subtle style, Joan Rivers opened her really big mouth a few days ago in a powerful defense of Israel’s war in Gaza . I love Joan, respect her take on this, and agree with much of what she had to say there – truly from her big heart. But I cringed when she was asked about what are the residents of Gaza to do when bombed in their homes and got nowhere to go: “I don’t care!” she screeched, and walked away.
Joan Rivers -- GOES OFF on Epic Israel/Palestine Rant
Joan Rivers — GOES OFF on Epic Israel/Palestine Rant
That is not OK. Joan’s video went viral as the best support of Israel, including the lack of care and compassion for victims.
 
But Joan – can we talk? This isn’t stand-up. Can we get beyond the slogans and take responsibility for our humanity – CAN WE PLEASE CARE ABOUT THOSE WHO ARE TRAPPED IN THIS BLOOD BATH – ON ALL SIDES? I AM TALKING ABOUT CHILDREN, ELDERS, FAMILIES THAT FOUND THEMSELVES IN A TERRIBLE REALITY, AND OFTEN AGAINST THEIR WILL. NOT HAMAS – HUMANS. 
The type of hostile lack of care for others was replied to by statements of Penelope Cruz and others that Israel is guilty of genocide. In this round – the extreme voices are on the rise, on all sides. Online culture is not helping to find a balanced middle ground that will help create solutions, not more hate.
I saw this first hand at Monday’s STAND WITH ISRAEL rally in front of the UN, where the signs that were carried by my friends and I were shredded, ridiculed and denounced, just as we who carried them became the targets of incredible abuse. The signs called for ‘No More Dead’, and for ‘Standing with Israel  – Mourning with Gaza.’
Can we talk? At least Joan gave us this perfect invitation for what is needed now more than ever: honest, level headed, heartfelt conversations about how we feel, what we can do about the situation, and how we can handle the complexity of love of family and country, commitment to humane and humanistic values, and the ability to somehow handle all. Not when the fire has ceased – right now.
Join me today for another hour long conversation, in person in NYC and on the phone.
We will take a moment of silence together for all who have fallen and died, send healing prayers to all wounded and share hopes for and end to this round of rage. We will have safe space to think and feel out loud – not fight, but listen to each other and figure out how to stand with our family at this terrible time- and not lose sight of compassion, care and co-existence. We can handle the complex and/both – together.

 

Joan – you are invited. We love you big time, still, and always.
Love,
Amichai
 

Join us TODAY, July 30th, from 6-7pm for another one hour conversation and conference call led by Amichai – This is not about facts – this is about feelings for how to cope, how to hope, and what we can do to make things easier for us and all.

 

This conversation will happen LIVE in our office in NYC and also made available as a free conference call.

ADDRESS: Makom Hadash,

125 Maiden Lane, NYC, Suite 8B

 

FREE PHONE CONFERENCE CALL:

July 23 2014, 12noon-1pm EST
(760) 569-0800
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Please email your RSVP or any questions to Molly.
Can’t join the call? We will be recording the conference. You can listen to last week’s and tomorrow’s calls on our website.
Read more: Amichai’s blogpost on his experience at the UJA Federation’s Israel Rally this past Monday.
Mourn with us: The Ninth of Av, commemorating historical tragedies will be of particular poignancy this year. Lab/Shul and Romemu will mark it together:JOIN US.

PREPENT5772 Day 12 Can We Talk?

If you see something – say something. But sometimes it’s really hard.
I’ve been biting my lips for the last two days: Gotta say something
important to someone special and don’t know if and how. It can rock
the boat. It’s my truth about what is difficult for me in our
relationship but the words are hesitant. What to say? how? when? is it
wise to get it out and try and resolve or let it go and let time
deliver the solutions? 

Can we talk? It’s sometimes a terrifying question. when I get asked
this I know it will lead to a ‘serious’ conversation that my be
painful or difficult. When I ask it of others I try to sound as
disarming as possible, and smile, but sometimes it’s hard and big
issues that have to rise to the surface over-rule smiling and unwisely
over-ride taking a deep breath and trusting in the outcome and the
honesty of heart. 

But there are times when the question must be asked. This period of
PREPENT is one of those times, prompting us to ask of ourselves and of
the ones in our lives and deal with the difficult places that are mute
and stuck. 

Regardless of this PREPENT process or perhaps encouraged by it and
with more attention to the need to process I am determined to launch
one such conversation today – stop biting my lips. As part of this
week’s focus on my ‘black lists’ and the people in my life I want to
make amends with and improve our relationships – it’s gotta be done. 

Gulp. Breath. Ask: Can we talk? 

It could be an email (maybe a txt msg? maybe FB? not sure) and it’s
definitely better as a conversation. you know, TALK. eye to eye. 95%
of our communication is non verbal. This is esp. important at these
serious moments of conflict resolution. 

And look – humor is ESSENTIAL here. Take Joan Rivers – the queen of
‘Can we talk’ – here she explains how she came up with the expression. 

http://tinyurl.com/joanriverscanwetalk 

Can we talk?