night 2: appreci8/ agit8 (the holy confluence of holy days)
by R Sharon Brous
This Chanukkah R’ Sharon Brous of IKAR (LA) and Amichai Lau-Lavie of Lab/Shul NY collaborate to create a virtual ritual upgrade toolkit getting us to shine our light with more purpose and intention. For 8 nights, illlumin8 will instigate conversations as the candles burn, so we can elaborate, recalibrate and celebrate!
Talk about holy mash-up… This year, due to a rare alignment of sun and moon (solar and lunar calendars), Thanksgiving and Hanukkah collide. These two celebrations, it turns out, are grounded in such similar narratives that I’m sure my son is not the only 4 year old who came home wide-eyed sharing the story of the wicked Antiochus who denied the Jews their religious freedom, prompting them to sail across the ocean on the Mayflower where they rededicated the Temple and ate latkes with their new Native American friends. Hard to miss the common threads: the struggle for religious freedom, the courage to fight for a different kind of life, liberated from oppression and persecution, the need to give thanks for the blessings in their days in ours.
But even more interesting to me than the harmony is the cognitive dissonance between these two holy days. Consider:
The spiritual heart of Thanksgiving is the recognition that gratitude is not about having everything we want or even need – it’s about finding appreciation despite what we lack. It’s about holding awareness of what’s missing, yet not being defined by it. Making space, instead, for recognition of the abundant blessings we all have, even in the darkest and hardest moments. Thanksgiving is about finding a way simply to be grateful for what is.
At the heart of Hanukkah, on the other hand, is the challenge to honor the sacred hunger for light in a world that bleeds with human suffering, injustice, loneliness and so much darkness. On Hanukkah, we tell and retell the story of a person who refused to accept the desecration of his traditions and the destruction of his people. We celebrate a family that would not back down from the fight – even when it was absurd to believe that they’d prevail. A history crowded with moments of triumph and vitality that emerged only when people stubbornly refused to accept what was, and instead insisted on fighting for what could be.
One holiday calling us to stop everything and appreciate. Another demanding that we stop everything and agitate.
As you light tonight, take a moment to breathe in the holy confluence of acceptance and non-acceptance, appreciation and agitation. Add to your Thanksgiving dinner ritual an expression not only of what you’re grateful for, but also something you yearn for. May this tension inspire wonder and wakefulness, hope and hutzpah in us all.